The Need to Love Someone, is that Wrong?
Love can mean many different things: It can be a wonderful experience, which touches our deepest emotions.. It is a quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing, and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Love is content with the present it hopes for the future, and it does not brood over the past.
If you have loved in your life, it can make up for the many things that you are missing. That is the image of Love that I have in my mind. Does that sound so evil? Is it wrong to wish to have a soulmate, a confidant, a friend, a lover, and a spouse all in one? Someone with whom you share your inner most deepest thoughts? To see someone who truly impresses you in their character, personality and their honesty, and wish you can be with them forever?
Is it wrong to love someone in that way?
Yet when we find enough courage to publicly act on our love by either talking to our parents or the girl's parents, we suddenly get a bitter dose of reality that we were too naïve and idealistic in our intentions. The majority of people seem to think of such ideas as ridiculous and not valid in the real world. Have they forgotten that they themselves have been in the same situation not so long ago?
It is so very sad for me to see that we have to suffer unmarried life due to un-Islamic social factors. We must blame our un-Islamic social customs and materialistic outlook that cause some men and women to remain unmarried.
Many young people or their parents have very (unrealistically) high material expectations for their spouses. They make very difficult standards of education, profession, wealth or physical features. The result is that such people remain unmarried or others do not marry them because they do not meet those standards.
We Muslims must emphasize that best criterion according to Islam is good character, and judge a person on him or her character alone rather than family, social standing etc.
The Prophet -peace be upon him- said, "If someone whose faith and morals you trust makes a proposal of marriage to you then marry him, otherwise there will be trials and much corruption in the land."
As Muslims it is also our duty to help our Muslim brothers and sisters to get married. Allah says in the Quran, "And help to get married those among you who are single or the virtuous ones of your slaves, males or females. If they are in poverty Allah will give them means out of His grace. For Allah encompasses all and knows all things." (Al-Noor 24:32)